The online community is bursting with a companies poor handling of what they consider to be an infraction against them by a Twitter user. The Twitter user in question had around 20 followers and they posted something about mold in their rental unit.  They referred to someone in their post as ‘Horizon’.  Jay Thompson brought the post to my attention in his blog at PhoenixRealEstateGuy.com 

Horizon Realty Group Chicago logo posted at StevenGroves.com What it looks like is that a real estate company named “Horizon Realty Group“, a company that manages about 15 properties in the Chicago area, has taken issue with the post and filed a lawsuit for $50,000 in damages from the person who made the post, Amanda Bonnen.  What did Ms. Bonnen say that was so bad that Horizon felt compelled to file a suit?  It looks like a reply to one of her followers / friends that said “You should just come anyway. Who said sleeping in a moldy apartment was bad for you? Horizon realty thinks it’s okay.”  (the account @ABonnen is now inactive BTW)abonnen_realtytweet at StevenGroves.com

Its a good thing that Horizon is savvy enough to monitor the social media world for it’s brand and mentions of it’s company.  Now we begin to explore what should you NOT do when you find a post like this.

Should they have filed the lawsuit for $50,000?  Maybe, but now that the story has made it to the mainstream media, the likely impact to the company filing the suit will likely be something much more more than the $50,000 they are seeking from Ms. Bonnen, who could not possibly be found at fault for the loss of revenue after this story has made the rounds.  I’ll say they probably should not have filed the suit.

The overwhelming penalty in revenue and social capital will not be because of the initial Twitter post made by Ms. Bonnen.  The impact will be because of two other things being talked about regarding this event. 

First is that the property management company opted to file the suit to begin with.  They might have handled it a hundred other ways, but a lawsuit is the way they decided to handle it.  They did not apparently attempt to contact Ms. Bonnen before filing the suit.  Whether or not they did attempt to contact Ms. Bonnen is now irrelevant though.  It’s the next item that really I think closed the door for Horizon and their reputation.

The second item is a comment by Jeffery Michael, who’s family has run the real estate company for about 25 years, who said in an interview with the Chicago Sun-Times “we’re a sue first, ask questions later kind of company”.

hmm…

My thought after reading about that comment was “… well, that’s good to know that about that real estate company – I’ll make sure I NEVER rent from them”. 

It’s a thought that I think it will be the assessment of hundreds, if not thousands of other potential renters over the next few days, weeks and years.  The impact to their revenue will be in the hundreds of thousands of dollars in lost rentals, maybe millions of dollars. 

Chicago is a city of of over 2.8M people.  If Jeffery had held his tongue, MAYBE 20 people would have heard about it.  Now that the media has picked it up, all 2M+ Chicago residents have or will likely heard about it.  Heaven knows how many more million of people across the country and now the world will hear about it.

Now when people search for “Horizon Realty”, guess what will likely come up as the #1 result?  Probably not their well constructed site – it will be this story for the next several years to come.  It’ll be the comment that the company is a “sue first, ask questions later” kind of company.  This could be bad for revenue.

What To Do?  If I were to advise Horizon, I get them to immediately withdraw the lawsuit, apologize to Ms. Bonnen, and comp her rent for a year.  I’d make it known that legal action is a last step, not a first.  There are a few other actions I would recommend as well, but I’m sure they’re getting a big dose of social media crisis recovery consulting right now – they can contact me if they would like a few other tips.

phishing11_2 Learning a lesson about phishing scams seem to me to be a lot like the lessons learned about the likelihood of data loss on a computer, namely that there are those that have lost data, and then there are those who have not lost data… yet – *sigh*. 

I suppose it will happen to all of us at one time or another, but it still really bites… this was my turn I guess. 

I consider myself a pretty literate user of computer technology and to allow this to occur, for me, was a sign that I was just not paying attention to what is probably one of the most important elements of an online presence – securing my identity.

The fact that it happened to me on Facebook was disconcerting; Facebook is a relevant social network for me, TheSocialMediaBible.com Community site is more so and FastPitchNetwork.com is coming up fast as a place for me to hangout lately (very nice B2B environment BTW, well worth a look-see if your are a small- to medium biz wanting to connect / sell to others).

On May 21st I get an email from the phiser, via Facebook, that looks like an email from a friend, Pat Kitano. I know Pat to be a pretty literate user as well, so I do not question the source of the message.  Little did I know what will come out of this message from a trusted friend. 

The message looked like other emails I’ve received from my community via Facebook, and says I should “Check <<insert URL here>>”, which looked like a legitimate link – I happily click thru to the site.  Still OK…

As the site comes up I fail to inspect the site closely.  It looks ‘Facebook-ish’ and I give up my Facebook login credentials – poof… almost immediately I begin getting tweets from friends telling me that I am spamming them.  As I hear from my friends, at first I am incredulous. I value my online community and I’d NEVER intentionally spam my friends, it just couldn’t happen!

…then suddenly the realization comes over me – I’ve been phished… dang… I think through the steps next to take –

  • Stop the spamming, if I can
  • Reset my credentials on Facebook ASAP 
  • Apologize to my network for the bad judgement / lack of presence that allowed it to happen
  • Move forward – not the end of the world…
  • Share the experience so others do not get caught too

I know how to do most of this, but unsure on other parts, so I tweet about my predicament.  I get back a series of responses on what to do next that range from deleting my Facebook account and restarting to simply changing the login credentials.  Another, very techy friend suggests I may have even been hit with a downloaded component that may have infected my local computer.  I’m working at home, so fortunately I have another computer nearby that will allow me to keep working. 

I get to work on establishing just what the phisher might have done to my laptop.  I make sure my WiFi is turned off and then reach around and disconnect the Ethernet cable and drop off the net on my laptop.  I start a virus scan; I use Avast AVG as my anti-virus provider and AVG updates almost everyday so I believe that it is current.  Click, click – I kick off the virus scan right away.

I get back to the web and keep checking replies from the community – the suggestion that I might have downloaded something by simply logging onto the phising site is clarified that it in order for it to have executed a download of anything, it requires that I be on IE.  I breath a sigh of relief – as much as I like Microsoft products, I rarely use IE as my browser; I’m usually in Google Chrome or Firefox for browsing, feeling like I might have dodged a bullet there, but still let the virus scan proceed.

I then look at the change of credentials.  I know I cannot delete my name, I want to still be ‘Steven Groves’ and while my community on Facebook is not large (362 as of today), I am in no way interested in trying to recreate the connections I have there.  Just changing my password will probably do what I need, which is to keep the phiser out of my account.  I think about password management and realize that I lack a robust capability to generate and manage passwords.  I have multiple computers, dozens of accounts and if I want to reduce or eliminate the likelihood of this happening again, I need a better solution.

I had come across LastPass.com a few weeks earlier and begin to explore it in earnest – I love what it does.  LastPass connects to FireFox as a plug in and can securely manage an identity online by generating wonderfully random characters for a password and by handling the fill-in for the login page.  As I implement LastPass, I’m feeling fairly secure but recognizing the weakness of counting on the LastPass.com solution to handle this critical capability of managing my online credentials. 

Paranoia and conspiracy theories only travel so far with me, so I make the plunge.  LastPass can generate a powerfully cryptic password, one a human would NEVER remember and one that, I hope, a hacker would never discover either.  As I work with LastPass on other accounts, I realize how powerful this kind of capability is, that is the ability to auto-generate a secure password for ALL my accounts.  I like it – a lot… I decide to also get the USB key, which turns a thumb drive into an authentication device so now you need my thumb drive, my password protected laptop, account access to LastPass and know where I have accounts to have an impact on my online presence.  Feeling significantly better now.

Finally, the virus scan completes – no known viruses found.  I breath a very big sigh of relief… definitely feel like I’ve dodged a bullet here and feel badly that I’ve spammed so many people.

Lessons Learned – consider using ‘non-industry standard’ web browsers more, pay attention to the links you click on, check into a password / single sign-on management product like LastPass.com.  Will it make a difference?  Yes, I think so and the solutions out there make the implementation very easy and non intrusive once you’ve got things set up.

Image credit – The Tech Herald

nameste I am getting back to the business of what I do after the tragedy of losing my son and wanted to begin by saying thank you to everyone who has helped, commented, sent a well wish and / or made a donation.  I’ll cover that whole experience soon enough, but until then please hear how grateful I am to everyone.  I took some time off, got connected to reality and have been working through all the thoughts issues and situations that come from such an experience.

My takeaway from the experience is to an evangelist for telling the people close to you that you love them everyday, every time you part with them – it’s a powerful message that helped make the loss of my son more manageable for me.  You can expect to hear it again… kind of like what I do.

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  • @heatherwags – happy to; umm… mind if I help myself to the liquer cabinet while I’m there #
  • Arrived safely in Payson; ahhh… Cool and comfortable #
  • Fed, gassed up and on the road to PMC camping / retreat – out of pocket off / on Twitter thru Sunday #
  • @RManning_Mynt – I succumb to a FB Phising scam; need more for your article? in reply to RManning_Mynt #
  • RT @AmandaVega: Everyone now…happy birthday @tdhurst! w00t! that old dawg?! #
  • hmm… noticing that TweetDeck does not aggregate incoming ‘All Friends’ from multiple accounts in 1 column like Seesmic Desktop #
  • @dneighbors – got it… and agree… nirvana is best expressed as ‘…’ – ‘swhy u c me use it so much… in reply to dneighbors #
  • Facebook is listed under Social Networks > Tools on P.452 in The Social Media Bible; What, How, Who, Founder & Should You are answered #
  • @dawnshrum – the new TD is MUCH imporved – no need to log out / in to use another acct. Loved the feature in Seesmic, nice to c in TD in reply to dawnshrum #
  • Interesting eye that gal @IAmChanelle has – here is her Flickr stream for #IgnitePhx http://tr.im/oWsk #
  • Facebook vanity URL is now http://www.facebook.com/StevenGrovesAZ – lagged on getting StevenGroves too long *dang* #
  • @chrisdickens – no MotoQ? Love the Q! Heard a rumor that VZN may be getting the iPhone though… any news on your side re; that? in reply to chrisdickens #
  • Liking the new capability and interface for TweetDeck; thumbs up and recommended! #
  • RT @cnnbrk: Continental jet whose pilot died in flight will be landed by two first officers at Newark airport in New Jersey. #
  • hmm… how to add another acct in Tweetdeck… #
  • RT @dneighbors: Im at — …. yes? where?! #
  • @BrianCamen – yep; Ning can be completely private if you wish in reply to BrianCamen #
  • FB RT: Dana Lam I love my life. Me too Dana! Some days better than others though… #
  • @BrianCamen – have done several Ning sites; wazzup? in reply to BrianCamen #
  • No error – charging ahead… #
  • Started up #Tweetdeck and was presented with a notice of another available update, said yes. Error came up. Will try to recreate. #
  • Loading up TweetDeck AGAIN for a feature comparison with Seesmic Desktop (which has become my fav BTW) #
  • Just joined #FlockToMe to connect with people under: #socialmedia, #strategy, and #entrepreneurship http://bit.ly/oGAlb #
  • G’Morning Tweeters! 1/2 day today for me – a couple of meetings and then off on Men’s Club Retreat; gonna miss you @Goodmansales! #
  • @paulvalach Did you ever get to sleep!? Thanks for coming by to visit the #KristalKafe and letting me prattle on about cooking! in reply to paulvalach #
  • PR / Mkt use of personas is being discussed #mashchat http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • The new #TweetDeck is FAR better than the prior version http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @mashable sez that most ppl using Twitter today are not doing so thru Twitter http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • BRB – you all behave… http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @jmarbach: ReTweet – CEO’s Should Tweet http://pea.to/rt *sigh – shakes head* http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @fetchplus – good call… in reply to fetchplus #
  • @jmarbach: ReTweet – CEO’s Should Tweet http://pea.to/rt – got it! Pls cease… http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @fetchplus – fractional attention good? or bad? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @sigepjedi: TNN -> Twitter News Network + very nice! http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • fractional attention is becoming more permissible – have you taken you ADHD meds today? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @jackalert – interesting observation http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • LOL – quality content measure at #140conf was the sound of keyboards http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @mashable and @PRsarahevans – how many followers should a CEO look to gather before they have a critical mass? http://mashable.com/chat#
  • per @fetchplus – conversation is king; vs. content? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @PRsarahevans – Twitter is a great tool for building a personal brand #mashchat http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • #BeOriginal – how quotable are you? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @jackalert – happy to oblige Amigo http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @josephkyle – check http://www.TheSocialMediaBible.com for the social media bible; @Mashable is the Social Media Guide http://mashable.com/chat#
  • @mashable – thx for the eval on Tinychat http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • CEO might require more specialized support for Twitter orientations http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @fetchplus – checked your blog Amigo; more of the same? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @fetchplus – you sounds like a pundit; is there anything you like about this preso? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @fetchplus – Desktop Clients are not useful? I disagree http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @paulvalach! good to see you here! http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • Cause marketing next up for the @mashable discussion http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @lisalarter – search for Seesmic Desktop http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • Gotta have a way to handle the stream – TweetDeck OR Seesmic – why both? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • Social media allows companies to connect with clients – @mashable http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • Is there a strategic role for Twitter in a corp effort? http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • Twitter for marketing @mashable – using TinyChat for the first time – prtetty neat! http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • currently chatting @ http://mashable.com/chat #mashchat #
  • @samuelisaac – really nice to connect with you today up at @Matadorcoffee; look forward to chatting again on SM4 NPO! in reply to samuelisaac #
  • @jowyang – I like the one with the orange rattail comb in reply to jowyang #
  • A lesson for biz and govt on the power now in the hands of millions, particularly the hands of the next generation – http://tr.im/oROO #
  • @neoblog excellent news that @mrsneo is OK Amigo in reply to neoblog #
  • Enjoying @TysonCrosby Flickr Stream from #IgnitePhxhttp://tr.im/oREx – thx to @IAmChanelle for the luv! and comment on my pic! #
  • @neoblog – just breath bro; blessing is she could call at all. You can replace cars, not ppl #
  • RT @brianshaler: @StevenGroves rocks. Haven’t said it in a while, but it’s still as true as it’s always been. *sniff* thx Amigo! #
  • @austinmiles – turn AWAY!, TURN AWAY! Don’t acknowledge the transgression of a bad towing policy! TURN AWAY NOW! in reply to austinmiles #
  • Enjoying a cheeseburger at In-N-Out… nummy #
  • I’m attending Fourth Annual Arizona Entrepreneurship Conference — http://bit.ly/kzydy #
  • @samuelisaac – cool! Try one of Mom’s baked goods… just killer! in reply to samuelisaac #
  • @samuelisaac – I too recommend @Matador Coffee – say hello to Mario for me and tell him I have my 3P meeting there today #
  • Finished my meeting with @RedPear – great team; look for announcement soon #
  • RT @krysvs: Just had a great meeting with @stevengroves. He’s rad.- umm… thx from me too… LOL – the danger of having 2 Twitter accts #
  • OMW to Steves Espresso and a mtg w/ @bwilley #
  • Wine at la Bocca with @cookn, @cpropst and @paulvalach for the after-party for #Ignitephx #
  • Off to the afterparty for #ignitephx at la Bocca #
  • @leogodin217 suggesting failure is the path to success at #ignitephx – very good preso! #
  • @mattwynn tell us why govt data requests in Phx is so inane at #ignitephx #
  • @globalscout1 is sharing her lessons learned from global travel – I agree with her that PMA matters #
  • I’m so surprised, @msherr found a way to get up on stage for #Ignitephx #
  • Great first half at #ignitephx – way too familiar with what happens to a dead body… #
  • OMg windy at #IgnitePhx #
  • Fighting traffic to get to #Ignitephx #
  • otw to #ignitephx w/ @cpropst & @cookn #
  • @boldavenue – think we’re all taken up, chk w/ @celsius; rumor has it he may have one or two xtra in reply to boldavenue #
  • @bwilley – what was the topic? in reply to bwilley #
  • just got the link to install v.3 of Seesmic Desktop – like it so far… a bit cleaner, more space for columns #
  • @DaveMcCollom – of course they will – need to remember my acct name & PW to get to the screen where they can *sigh* waiting on PW now in reply to DaveMcCollom #
  • @DaveMcCollom – was hoping to find a better, quicker, more timely solution than filling out a web form *sigh* in reply to DaveMcCollom #
  • one ticket left for #IgnitePhx in my bag o’ tricks – my understanding is that reserved parties will need to be together to be admitted #
  • Reading a MS published guide on performance tuning in Vista – hoping for tips on improving video performance that I need – http://tr.im/oH3B #
  • @paulvalach – not on a Mac; trying to do editing / production work of the .MOV on a PC #
  • 2 add’l tix for #IgnitePhx reserved @Lonsafko and a guest are not able to make it – anyone need tix? DM or @ me #
  • pretty frustrating – trying to work on a .MOV format video in #Camtasia; playback is stuttering – cannot find any support / help on web #
  • Need a good & inexpensive (free maybe?) option to translate .MOV files to WMA or other HD format for a PC – any ideas? #
  • Suggest you not use #TwitterTrain – asks for your Twitter PW = very bad… #
  • What has happened to Googles Spam filter?! I am not getting two to six spam emails a day that they used to always get *sigh* #
  • Would you unfollow someone who posted this message? “TWITTER= MONEY MAKING MACHINE. USE IT NOW.” – I did… #
  • Cool! Google Docs now supports Office 07 format! Been using Google more and more to do work on text and spreadsheets #
  • @Mashable is running a contest to win a social media library which includes The Social Media Bible! http://tr.im/oFp8 #
  • For those without the AZ Republic, @EvoTerra (and 2 others) made a mention on the #IgnitePhx article in Section B – go get a copy to frame! #
  • When life hands you lemons, put a rind twist in your martini #BeOriginal #
  • Whew – seemed like a busy day; did I get anything done? #
  • RT @KellyNeufeld: The Social Media Bible 10 Commandments http://tinyurl.com/kqwtvo #
  • whew – just cleaned up the 570 emails I sat down with this morning… #
  • Next wkend #
  • RT @InPlainEnglish: Wiley’s Social Media Bible just out. Over 800 pages. Superb collection of very helpful info – http://cli.gs/JXQVM0 #
  • RE: Hello Bobbie Jo and the fundraising effort was not mine, but established by some friends. They did have it set to ex… http://disq.us/f9k #
  • RT @chrislee: RT @TwestivalPhx: The date for the next Global Twestival will be announced tomorrow at the #140conf! #
  • RT @austinhamilton: how many more days do I need to tweet about #squarespace? – I dunno; at least once more I bet… #
  • Reading “The Coming Change in Social Media Business Applications” at http://tr.im/oyZG #
  • Anyone else watching the Twitterstream for #iranelection? Change coming for those ppl… violence in the transition process though #
  • RT @KarenYetter: Social media marketing gaining ground http://tr.im/oyTp – going Global! #
  • RT @JobCaesar: I have a book in my hand as thick as Econ 105 textbook in college: Social Media Bible… textbook for the New Economy? #
  • @erencelik – looks like you get to trade sleep for a worldwide reporting stint – best wishes and be safe Mi Amigo in reply to erencelik #
  • @JKWleadership – thx… good to be back at it… in reply to JKWleadership #
  • @JamieHS – visit other blogs, comment there, link back to your blog – particpate Mi Amigo in reply to JamieHS #
  • The difference between school and life? School = you’re taught a lesson and given a test. Life = given a test that teaches you a lesson #
  • @joankw – oooohhh… have to look through the china and silversets left by my Mother – get back to ya’ in reply to joankw #
  • RT @cookn: @stevengroves What happened to your avatar? It’s blank. – might be updating – just reset it to the initials logo #
  • @dbarnhart knows what a demitasse spoon is @cookn – it’s a little tiny spoon used to stir a freshly brewed, steaming hot espresso – yum! in reply to dbarnhart #
  • @cookn – ah, thought it might just be me with the civilized demeanor ;-) in reply to cookn #
  • Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks. – Regina Brett, 90 years old #
  • I do not mind being reminded of being punked on April 1, 2009, but I just HAD to let the Twitter PRO avatar go this morning… sorry y’all #
  • @bwilley OMG yes… BTW, when do you get into the office Amigo? in reply to bwilley #
  • Very good chance you all will see me and Cyn at #Ignitephx – Daughter may have a dive meet #
  • Does anyone else keep demitasse spoons at the espresso maker to stir in sweetner? Or is it just me? #
  • Good to be hm, back from a few dayz off. Have many, many to acknowledge and 570 emails to sort thru; backyard repair / watering done though #
  • Last foodie update for a while – San Diego’s BEST burgers = Rocky’s in Mission Beach off Ingraham at La Playa; OMG good stuff #
  • Accessing Google Maps on the Moto Q to chk traffic / closures – prompted to d/l new version to since 2-3 days ago #
  • @cc_chapman – excellent fam outing to see UP… good story, awesome 3D graphics #
  • Been considering social media consulting programs & offerings; want to est. std offerings w/ customization options. Concern re; scalability #
  • Verdict on Space Age Restaurant in Gila Bend; Good Patty Melt, crisp-toasted rye bread and the Reuben was flavorful. O-Rings waayy overdone #
  • @celsius – doing pretty well; anxious to get plugged in again and get to work #
  • Hmm… The ol’ Twitter PRO pic has returned; seems like the avatar changes randomly at times; anyone else get the same? #
  • I’m up in N. Valley – Desert Ridge / Citynorth #
  • @ricknovy – it’s a #Twitter thing; not touched a thing for over a week… *sigh* #
  • @jenn_ex Thx for the well wish, back to Phx now… prob back by dinner time #
  • *sigh* on I-8 otw to Phx #
  • Last morning to awaken in San Diego; pack, b’fast & then drive across the desert b4 it gets hott #
  • Back from morning bike ride along the beach…. Ready for Bloody Mary & Beachfront Reading Room #
  • G’morning tweeters! San Diego is turning out to be just what the Dr. Ordered; much needed rest and relaxation #
  • Bit of beach reading, split a Reuben and now shopping for the kitchenette #
  • Just chk’d in in Pacific Beach @ 1A – time for a cocktail & walk on the beach #
  • Field fire at Gordons Well, CA – exit 151; interesting odor – eeewwww! #
  • Going thru Gila Bend – do we stop at the Space Age Lodge / Restaurant? #
  • Feeling some tension drain – otw to visit San Diego… Sissy is watching the house & feeding the cat… been a tough week #

Steven This last week has been a whirlwind… loads of well wishers, friends, near friends and lots of social media connections that all took a minute out of their day to connect and support me, and by proxy, my family as we process this sad event.  I’m doing OK, certainly as well as can be expected thank you.

Thank you to everyone who left a comment, sent a tweet, a note, a well wish or a small donation – the team at OTEF will be good stewards of the donated fund and we’ll see how much we need for the services and how much we can donated to a drug treatment agency in Stevens name – you all are just a blessing to us.

There are two events planned for remembering my son, Steven Groves II.  A viewing at the funeral home for family & close friends and a memorial service for anyone who would care to show support for the family and be present as we remember Stevens life in celebration.

Viewing / Funeral Home Service

Friday, June 6th at 5P, Shadow Mountain Funeral Home 2350 E Greenway Rd, Phx

Memorial Service

Saturday, June 7th at 1:30P, Unity of Phoenix, 1600 E Greenway Parkway, Phx

Thanks again, I and we appreciate your support – I’m taking some time off, so I may be online now and then, but count on seeing me back online in full force beginning Monday the 15th.

You can DM on Twitter (@StevenGroves) or use GoogleVoice to call from my website (use the badge to the right and below) if you need to contact me.

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  • http://twitpic.com/69973 – Golf Shoes?! Who needs stinking golf shoes!? #
  • At the driving range w/ my son – he forgot shoes, so we’re both barefoot and doing suprisingly well #
  • @tweetarizona – great idea on the podcast; why not do both?! a live recorded podcast! @iboughtamac may be able to lend a hand #
  • @bing – want to use better search to match results w/o having to include local (i.e.; Phoenix, San Diego, etc) – howz about a Bing? #
  • looking for a meeting place / hall / restaurant backroom to hold the post svc reception in N. Phx – DM ideas please #
  • hmm… messed up day doing the things that need to be done to handle SGII – just should not be having to do this for your child… #
  • Life is a grindstone. Whether it grinds us down or polishes us up depends on us. ~Thomas L. Holdcroft~ #
  • Thank you everyone for the well wishes / condolences – in honor of my son, take a moment to tell the people you love, that you do love them #
  • Today is by far, one of my worst days ever. I am very touched however by the outpouring of support and condolences – thank you #
  • Life happens; my oldest son of 29 years has passed, cause unknown at this time #
  • Just received a call from my oldest sons girlfriend – not good news… #
  • RT @cookn: New Blog Post at StevenGroves.com: Quick! Get 2,000 Followers on Twitter Before the End of the Month! http://bit.ly/aZ4hc #
  • w00t! Just booked an interview on social media for investors / real estate… to be pre-recorded for playing over the July 4th weekend… #
  • Princess is in her kennel again… Jumping over the gat. Gracie is stuck in her kennel… Not sure she has come out #
  • @SEO_Doug_Kelly – thx for the re-follow Amigo! in reply to SEO_Doug_Kelly #
  • @AhwatukeeREgal – Hola Senorita! Good to see you on Twitter! in reply to AhwatukeeREgal #
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  • G’Morning Tweeters! Great weekend working on Backyard 2.1 – still a few minor items to finish up and then on to planning ver. 2.5! #
  • w00t! Pavers all in… Returning overage and theb prep for friends to come by for BBQ #
  • Reset the advertisers at StevenGroves.com – room for 2 more… #
  • Backyard 2.1 is on track… Lunch, Home Depot and maybe a movie this afternoon… #
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  • Listening to Lily Allen – like a lot of her stuff… the rest is still kinda’ fun… #
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SDC10091 My oldest child, Steven Groves II, passed yesterday.  The medical examiner has not finished their work, but it appears he succumbed to a battle with drugs.

I’m still working on how these events fit into the journey of my life and those around me, but the outpouring of support from my online and offline community have shown me again, how important it is to be in a community and how critical it is to have friends around you when things are difficult.

Steven did not have any means set aside or insurance to cover his passing, nor did his Mother or I.  Burying a child is just not something I think any of us would plan for.

Francine Hardaway, Joan Kerber-Walker and Lon Safko have set up a Chip-in site for people who are interested and able to help us with the costs.  I’ve promised that any fund remaining after covering costs will be donated to a drug addiction treatment program.

I’ll end my post today by asking you all to just stop – stop whatever you are doing and turn to the people you love (your spouse, partner, child, parent, whomever) and tell them you love them.  I have made it a steady practice in my life with my kids, they were the last word I shared with my son… in all the stream of things I now have to deal with I’m grateful for at least that.

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